tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post800740562790160920..comments2023-10-05T08:43:27.995-06:00Comments on THE DISCIPLINED FEMINIST: The Virtues of a Sore BottomUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-91466726594551519762019-02-02T10:54:38.606-07:002019-02-02T10:54:38.606-07:00Lao Tse famously wrote that there is nothing softe...Lao Tse famously wrote that there is nothing softer than water yet over time it cuts through the hardest of stone. So too is the effect of a woman's submission to the man she loves, to become the best feminine woman she can be. Nature is full of comparable paradoxes, and you have written well here of one more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-81592019328913136692018-04-17T15:29:13.780-06:002018-04-17T15:29:13.780-06:00I know this is older but I want to comment anyway....I know this is older but I want to comment anyway. I love what you've shared and it's so true. I was really, at times, bratty, rude obstinate. I have a hard time believing it but really think I was testing my fiancé'. At some point he'd had enough. He pulled me across his lap and gave me the spanking of my life! I was shocked,mad and even more upset when he threw me my jacket and told me to leave. I cursed my way out as I rubbed my sore yoga pants covered butt. Shockingly the two days later I showed up at his door and apologized meekly for my horrible behavior. I loved him and still wanted to be together. I can't tell you how centered, and calm I felt after that spanking.<br />I went back to my bratty side relatively quick and was once again a bear to be around. About six months later I was off the charts, arguing with my older sister when my fiance' tried to calm me down. I freaked at him and was shocked when out of my mouth I snapped, Well what do you expect it's been months since the spanking you gave me!"<br />I think we all were kind of shocked and even more so when right there he pulled me over his lap again and spanked the daylights out of me as my sister looked on. I apologized profusely to both.My sister said "Well that worked."<br />My fiance' told me I could expect the same a lot sooner if I acted up.<br />Our wedding date was a few months later and at my shower my maid of honor/my big sis gave me a paddle as a "gag" gift. In private she told me it would probably be worn out by our second anniversary.<br />After 4 years of marriage the paddle isn't worn out but it has been well used!<br />And we are happier for it! <br />So I totally understand where your coming from, agree with you but have a hard time wrapping my head around it all. Becky<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-39669903881444010982014-06-23T21:14:33.023-06:002014-06-23T21:14:33.023-06:00As a male often spanked by my wife, I totally agr...As a male often spanked by my wife, I totally agree that after a spanking one feels much more confident and empowered; absolutely glows from the inside out; is kinder and more patient with loved ones and others; has much better posture and grace; and yes is a little more feminine. Feminine does not mean weak. I have coach ed male and female teams. Female s are easier to coach and usually work harder. Even during high school and college I noticed that the female athletes are often the best. Feminine does not mean weak. sshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06306684588898318774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-61821057519501423602012-12-06T17:11:11.090-07:002012-12-06T17:11:11.090-07:00I loved this post. I love a warm bottom when walki...I loved this post. I love a warm bottom when walking aroung work or the grocery store, etc.... I do find power, clarity, and more feminine. It also makes me think of my partner and how sexy I think he is. He was always sexy to me, but since he understood what spanking does for me and takes on this role for me, upped his sexy factor by about 1000%. All the things you mentioned above and my shared sentiments with them, lead to me also feeling more sexy which leads to great, intimate sex. Bravo on the post. Very well said.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-35062824411417815112012-06-01T23:53:01.144-06:002012-06-01T23:53:01.144-06:00This blog and your books / articles are great for ...This blog and your books / articles are great for both males and females that maybe thinking of spanking for discipline and even a more intimate "connection" to each other.<br /><br />Great information and thank you.<br /><br />BAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-27912127975539491042011-08-18T21:19:28.900-06:002011-08-18T21:19:28.900-06:00I love spanking my wife...almost as much as she do...I love spanking my wife...almost as much as she does.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-83499291010432036582011-08-15T20:31:25.930-06:002011-08-15T20:31:25.930-06:00Thanks for your blog and this kind of thinking. I ...Thanks for your blog and this kind of thinking. I was a child going into my teens during the feminist movement. It was all so confusing to me. I didn't want to act like a man and I didn't want to look like one either. Bravo, women can be women and achieve things like a woman and not a 'pretend man'. My husband was more of a feminist than I was when I met him. He's had to change his thinking a lot. He realizes that when I'm destructive in my mood, I don't achieve what I want to in life. After a good hard spanking from him, I feel freed of negative emotions and empowered to go after my goals. I kept wondering how being spanked by my husband made me a feminist and not a June Cleaver. You put it so aptly. I don't think my husband will ever understand, but he did step up to the plate and delivers a good sore bottom to me when I need it. He notices the difference in me and that is why he is not afraid to spank hard and spank long, until I get rid of negative emotions. I'm sitting on a sore bottom now and it feels so good. That does not mean I'm submissive to other men, only my husband. That's the difference my husband said, as a feminist I'm choosing to be spanked and it is not against my will, because he wants to bend me to his. He does it for my benefit and not his. I ask to be spanked. I decide when I need it. He may suggest it, but in the end, it's my decision and I usually like one or two really good bare bottom, over the knee hand spankings once or twice a week. I'm a calmer person for it. Being a feminist means we have the right to choose. This isn't forced on us. Big difference when you think of countries where it is forced on woman by all men.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-9246114557650464102009-12-12T13:22:46.746-07:002009-12-12T13:22:46.746-07:00I think your blog will help many of my fairer sex ...I think your blog will help many of my fairer sex to get the ballence right! after a spanking from my husbund I feel so femminine and submissive, unyet as you say 'strong and clear headed, my posture becomes to me somthing that i am more acutely aware of than before. My husbund just smiles and seems to have known this all along!<br />AnonymousAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-59739540965887030832009-10-26T06:22:29.799-06:002009-10-26T06:22:29.799-06:00I've just begun exploring spanking, and thinki...I've just begun exploring spanking, and thinking about it in terms of feminism and my own femininity. It never occurred to me that the two could be intertwined but your essays have helped me better understand their relationship. Thanks for the thoughtful analysis.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-35323830550035451992009-03-24T05:26:00.000-06:002009-03-24T05:26:00.000-06:00u r blog Is very niceu r blog Is very niceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-29025268067634104802008-11-02T12:58:00.000-07:002008-11-02T12:58:00.000-07:00Hi Vivian,Congratulations on such a wise and insig...Hi Vivian,<BR/><BR/>Congratulations on such a wise and insightful article. Everything you say is true! My wife and I are well into our fourth decade of marriage, and she feels exactly the way you describe feeling when she has a sore bottom; Soft, feminine and loving, but at the same time, stronge and confident.<BR/><BR/>JoshAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-28512476653116365792008-10-06T12:46:00.000-06:002008-10-06T12:46:00.000-06:00Great essay. I love your blog. I recently met a ma...Great essay. I love your blog. I recently met a man who is into discipline. First he suggested books for me to read, since I have previously only experienced erotic spanking-- and loved it. The more I read the books and blogs on LDD, the more I crave a spanking, but this seemed to fly in the face of my feminist beliefs. Your blog has helped me greatly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-73901036886388923722008-07-26T10:54:00.000-06:002008-07-26T10:54:00.000-06:00It's great to hear that women are re-discovering t...It's great to hear that women are re-discovering their feminity in this way. As a man I have a feminine side but don't believe in domination or punishment from the wife, but I do enjoy her spanking me. I also do it to her but very gentle as she does not share my kink.<BR/><BR/>Apart from that she goes out of her way to be subject to me.Raymondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03525273027623075594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-55013453258684386352008-01-03T14:55:00.000-07:002008-01-03T14:55:00.000-07:00I liked your post "The virtues of a sore bottom" Y...I liked your post "The virtues of a sore bottom" You are so right that feminism is reclaiming the femaleness, too - not about choice, behaving like men etc. Females, in my book, are soft in a particular way, an accepting way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-42004519076096764032007-12-10T12:09:00.000-07:002007-12-10T12:09:00.000-07:00Having a sore bottom tends to make me feel great, ...Having a sore bottom tends to make me feel great, very relaxed and happy and submissive towards my husband and strongly attracted to him. These are all benefits to him of spanking me, quite apart from the main one of being able to 'take it out on your bottom' as he says when he is annoyed with me.<BR/><BR/>I don't think I am particuarly feminine. I am a full-time housewife and don't have a career, but I like wearing trousers and when I was young I did historical re-enactment which involved wearing men's clothes most of the time. This did not seem to put men off me at all, so i suppose I was 'feminine' enough for them. it's not something I've ever worried about much. I am not particularly interested in classifying people rigidly as 'masculine' and 'feminine', I have found most people to be a bit of a mixture. <BR/><BR/>LouiseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-49168498198929417102007-11-22T09:52:00.000-07:002007-11-22T09:52:00.000-07:00I'm a male - first time reader and poster to your ...I'm a male - first time reader and poster to your blog.<BR/><BR/>You are so right. There is No question that a woman's real power is in her femininity. I am a dominant man with my own business, and have been in the business world many years. In negotiating with women counterparts, I have noticed that the ones who haven't lost their femininity in the business world can normally get pretty much anything (within reason) that they want in the negotiation. Their softness (don't confuse this with lack of toughness or purposefulness) and womanliness are traits that I admire and respect. They make me want to work with them to achieve a good deal for both of our companies.<BR/><BR/>Women who try to act tough or masculine are a real turn off - in a lot of ways. Whenever I come across one, I always think, "if only she knew how much power she was losing by acting like this..."<BR/><BR/>One of the real benefits to administering a good spanking to my wife, is to see the feminine beauty and strength shine through.<BR/><BR/>I enjoy your posts.<BR/>SamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-77688278824709888112007-04-11T07:58:00.000-06:002007-04-11T07:58:00.000-06:00Thank you. I have been wanting a spanking for qui...Thank you. I have been wanting a spanking for quite a while and I know that I want it from someone who is large and strong.<BR/><BR/>I am always in charge and complete control as a divorced mother and in my career. I don't feel feminine at all.<BR/><BR/>Now I realize how my wants are solutions to my need to feel feminine and to give up control. Even if for only 20 minutes, it is an opportunity to explore my feminine side and let it have its moment "to be".<BR/><BR/>Before reading your blog, I had lots of thoughts but couldn't bring them together to make sense. Your explanation went right through me, from my head to my gut, and I realized this was my goal. Thank you again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-74801682954235867162007-03-26T11:14:00.000-06:002007-03-26T11:14:00.000-06:00VivI was recently talking to a feminist friend of ...Viv<BR/><BR/>I was recently talking to a feminist friend of my father's. She is a first wave, Germaine Greer, patriarch-hating feminist who burned her bra 35 years ago. I told her that not only did I spank my 23 year old fiancee, but that Dad (her valued friend of forty years) did too. I expected her to be scandalised and to descend into a 'lefty' rant about women's rights, but instead she related something to me that I'd never heard before. Until the age of 18 her own father had regularly spanked her and when he passed away, she missed him and his belt more than she ever thought possible. It was then and only then that she became a militant feminist, rejecting the 'natural order' and becoming a typical 'angry young woman'.<BR/><BR/>-HughAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-28585701884730990932007-02-12T14:11:00.000-07:002007-02-12T14:11:00.000-07:00Wonderfully thought out and expressed. Bravo!Wonderfully thought out and expressed. Bravo!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-41594383439977852102007-02-06T01:56:00.000-07:002007-02-06T01:56:00.000-07:00I am a male switch, happily married to a gorgeous ...I am a male switch, happily married to a gorgeous woman. <br /><br />My psycho-social persona also benefits from receiving a good spanking from my wife. <br /><br />I walk better, talk better, dance with more elegance, fluidity, and expression. <br /><br />At the same time, my masculinity is undiminished: I box better, take shocks better, pick locks better. <br /><br />Girlfriends were always telling me that I ought to get in touch with my feminine side. Now I know which side that is!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-76523088173338381572007-02-04T23:19:00.000-07:002007-02-04T23:19:00.000-07:00Thank you all for sharing your experiences on this...Thank you all for sharing your experiences on this subject. As requested, I'm working on an article that talks more about feminine energy and the soft=strong issue. I'm so glad that there are others out there who share my interest in this paradox.<br /><br />By the way, in one of those coincidences that aren't really coincidences, my new issue of Yoga Journal arrived today and the interview on the last page talks a bit about the issue of feminine strength as being rooted in softness.<br /><br />-VivVivianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11008724776478015660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-92003876765546510342007-02-04T22:41:00.000-07:002007-02-04T22:41:00.000-07:00I love your thought provoking explorations. It is ...I love your thought provoking explorations. It is hard to argue that my confidence is anything but stronger on account of many a spanked bottom. I love what being spanked and having structure does for my life. I also love the freedom to be feminine that his dominance gives me. I feel so sheltered and happy - ans so totally myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-15729566484858577052007-02-04T12:53:00.000-07:002007-02-04T12:53:00.000-07:00Excellent.Excellent.Oscar Wildehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987788585446430424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-53677484494357813412007-02-04T11:27:00.000-07:002007-02-04T11:27:00.000-07:00You give us new insight into the expression "sitti...You give us new insight into the expression "sitting pretty."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902179632740561852.post-41207080102829541402007-02-03T16:26:00.000-07:002007-02-03T16:26:00.000-07:00Vivian,
Thank you for a brilliant essay. I love ...Vivian,<br /><br />Thank you for a brilliant essay. I love how you explored the depths of this enigma and emerged with a resolution that is both sensible and intuitive.<br /><br />I never feel stronger or more confident than when I'm basking in the afterglow of a recent spanking. It's a wonderfully theraputic experience. I just hadn't placed into context as you do. You made me think.<br /><br />Thank you!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />BonnieBonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.com